We are all trying to “puzzle” our way through life. As you piece together your identity, consider the people, communities, and values that impact you.
If you’re talking about your own life, control is what matters. Self-control, or self-discipline, is fundamental to your ability to succeed in anything.
But if you’re talking about the life or lives of others, control is an illusion; influence is what matters.
Whether it’s with your kids, your employees, your peers, or even your boss, the more you seek to exert control (or expand the level of your control), the less you’ll actually have.
Why? Because agency is an inalienable trait in humans. The more you seek to contain it, the less successful you’ll be.
Those who don’t understand this (e.g. new parents, new managers, or tyrants) attempt to accomplish their dreams and vision through control. They inevitably find themselves unsuccessful (or fired, or dead).
But those who understand that control is not really theirs to have (e.g. experienced parents, managers, or leaders) seek rather to shape the course of events through influence. They find themselves far more successful at accomplishing their objectives, and far less negatively affected when they don’t.
It’s ironic, really. The more you seek control, the less of it you have. The more you give up control and seek only to influence, the more control you experience.
-Rusty
We are all trying to “puzzle” our way through life. As you piece together your identity, consider the people, communities, and values that impact you.
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The night I quit my job I had a decision to make: wait, or just start. I chose to just start and held a seminar the next day. People in motion tend to stay in motion and people at rest tend to stay at rest. So whatever it is you've been waiting to do... just start!
The hardest handicaps to overcome are mental. It happens when we tell ourselves the wrong story. Change the story.
The funny, but insightful story about how we tend to destroy what is most precious to us. A video from an international speech competition.
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We provide the tools and the training, the motivation and the methodology, an entire system designed to help you move beyond where you’ve been, to go farther than you thought you could… to achieve more, to do more, to become more. It’s about more than just short-term success. It’s the disciplined pursuit of excellence.
